At the beginning of the year, it’s inevitable that we start thinking about our goals for the year ahead. Why? Because nobody will stop talking about it!
So how has that been working for you in the past? Are you the type of person that sets goals and then makes them happen, no matter what? A lot of people (and by ‘a lot of people’, I mean ‘me’) have a hard time with that. Goals have become a target we set up that we want to hit, we try to hit, but we often don’t hit. Goals have become dreams.
Dreams are great. But when it’s time to wake up and smell the coffee, reality can tend to lock us down and immobilize even the best intentions.
So what are we to do? It’s time to stop making goals and start making commitments. Is it your goal to pick up your kids after school? Or is it your commitment? Is it your goal to brush your teeth before you go to bed? Or is it your commitment? See where I’m going with this?
Look at the goals you made (or are tempted to make) How can you turn them into commitments instead? And since that is often too much, how about starting with just one commitment that you can actually follow through with? Success is about taking small steps, one after the other.
Change is challenging so stop expecting that your goal setting is going to help you make big sweeping changes. It’s a journey and like any journey has some steps forward, some back, some round about, some direct. Make a commitment to a smaller step that will naturally lead you to the change you desire.
Small incremental steps will get you where you want to go. That’s how you become a black belt too. You don’t jump from white belt to black belt! You start as a white belt, and then you get your next belt, and your next belt and the next belt… You take small steps to get where you want to go.
So make a commitment to where you want to go, and then make a commitment to that first small step to get there .That’s how it works.
Setting big lofty goals is easy. Following through with them is hard. Stop making it so hard for yourself. Start taking the small successful steps that will get you to where you want to go.
Happy New Year!